Comments on: Tim Bosma and the most important, awful promise a father can make

By: Matt

Matt — Wed, 15 May 2013 02:06:28 +0000

I don’t think it represents a change in Canada. Violent crime rates are dropping in both countries, aren’t they?

By: me

me — Tue, 14 May 2013 23:40:16 +0000

well, this also changes Canada. Its becoming like the US more and more.. with gun fights in public etc.

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 14 May 2013 20:36:57 +0000

(I know, right?)

By: Candace

Candace — Tue, 14 May 2013 20:18:05 +0000

Aw.

By: Matt

Matt — Tue, 14 May 2013 20:11:17 +0000

I appreciate that, Candace. Particularly coming from someone who’s getting ready to wear her heart on the outside in the same fashion. Thank you.

I should mention, by the way, that this is one of the rare posts my wife actually read – and edited – before I posted it. Yet another thing in my life that’s better because of her, as far as I’m concerned.

By: Candace

Candace — Tue, 14 May 2013 20:05:26 +0000

I don’t think it’s narcissistic to feel that way. And you shouldn’t feel bad about how you feel.

This case has been bothering me since it happened precisely because I could identify with how helpless and desperate his wife must have felt. I can’t even begin to imagine her devastation now, though. “What if it had been my husband?” I thought.

My mom felt the same way because she was thinking of her sons (my brothers). What if it had happened to them?

We’re all so fragile. It sucks to realize how much we are at the mercy of others.

Anyway, I wouldn’t call it our feelings narcissism because our hearts go out so deeply to Tim’s family. I’d call it empathy, which to me, is the most important feeling one can have.